Practicalities:
Although there may no longer be set rules regarding who can or cannot be an attendant, there are some practicalities to consider such as:
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Size and formality. The dimension and formality of your wedding can help determine the size of your wedding party. If you are organizing a small, intimate day, you won’t want attendants outnumbering guests. Even if the ceremony site is small, one or two attendants will be more than enough. On the contrary, If you’re planning a large, extravagant wedding, an equally large wedding party will make the difference. Just keep in mind that the more attendants you have, the larger your expenses will be. In fact, the spouses are responsible for all bouquets, boutonnieres, and wedding-party gifts, as well as the attendants’ accommodations if they don’t live near the wedding’s location. Furthermore, a high number of attendants will increase the cost of your rehearsal dinner and wedding reception because you are responsible for feeding and entertaining not only your attendants but your attendants’ partners as well.
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Religious restrictions. Some religions have strict rules regarding official witnesses. For example, for a traditional Jewish wedding, witnesses cannot be related by blood or marriage to the bride, groom, or each other.
Another advice: Since attendants have special duties such as to assist the bride and groom and check that the wedding and reception run smoothly, consider people with these qualities:
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Reliability: an attendant should be a person you can count on and to stay in touch with in the weeks and months preceding the wedding. A person ready who listens to your instructions on the big day, and ready for all events.
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Consideration. Considerate attendants who will be aware of their role. You are not looking for people who want to be in charge or stress you with nonsense questions. You look for someone who wants to support you and be helpful
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Courtesy: Attendants are ambassadors for the bridal couple and their families. You are looking for people who can be counted on to behave appropriately.
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Fun: Being a bridesmaid or groomsman isn’t just about logistics; it’s about having a great time planning with your closest friends. Choose friends who are drama-free, flexible, and upbeat. It’s a wedding!
